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what are you waiting for? I understand some (not all) of the complexities with the children ( what a total mess) but honestly, how much can you really help them if you are angry, bitter, resentful and constantly tormented by his abuse. . . .If you worry about what the Bible says, maybe realize/research that the final redaction of the New Testament is not treated in current texts of the New Testament. This creates the very false impression that a final redaction never occurred. However, all the evidence provided by.

Have spoken with pastor couple of times and he told me I was not bound in this marriage. It just hurts to think about living w/o him but I cannot live with someone who doesn't respect me and is always tearing me down emotionally. There has been physical abuse. He has lied to me. He totaled my car back in Jan. and said he would give meI agree with Aly's comments. From the vast research I've done, and from personal experience, I would say that they CAN but it's extremely rare, because they don't really want to (even though they may say they do.

They have to want to change (repent: change of mind and direction), and then they have to humble themselves and submit to those who can help them re-learn how to relate to others from a position of equality, respect, and mutuality. It takes a lot of time and investment, because their best aim pathways have been deeply entrenched by their repeated bad choices. Abusers generally have deep pride and entitlement issues: they think they are more important than the people they are abusing, and are simply entitled to.

respect (because they are superior), even when they do not earn it.So true! When you said the thing about winning, I remember my h telling me that (in his previous mindset) there was a winner and a loser& I said, what about both people winning? He said, "I never considered that an option." He was taught that if there was a winner there was a loser and the winner has the power. This obviously is an immature thinking pattern but it's amazing what roads get laid down. Praise God for his recovery & cont. recovery.

This will be a process and will not happen in isolation. It is not intended to happen in isolation.Then, the character of both parents also plays a part. Whether or not it is important that the father tore out the tongues of birds in his youth, as you say, can be determined only after all the other questions have been answered. Such a consideration depends on whether the man was perhaps cruel in his youth. The characteristic of cruelty as such does come into consideration. To speak of a punishment, however, is out of the question here.